Re-plan to Succeed

When you fail in your life, take it as a result of lack of planning. So, in such situations, try to do re-planning and you will certainly reach success. When you accept your mistake, you correct yourself and save yourself from living in falsehood. When a person discovers this fact, accepting his mistake will become a very pleasant deed for him.

Defining the concept of a Friend

n Sanskrit there are four words for “friend”, but they are not identical to one another. They may be similar. Those four words are bandhu, suhrd, mitram and sakhá. Bandhu means “those within the bondage of love”. That is, when one cannot tolerate the idea of separation one is called bandhu. Now, have you got any bandhu in thisworld? No. Even your friend, your best friend, did not come at the same time as you, and after leaving the cremation ground there is permanent separation. He will be with you up to the cremation ground. After your cremation he will not be with you. So he is not bandhu, he is not a friend, for he can tolerate the idea of separation. So who is the real friend? Parama Puruśa. When you are in this physical framework, in this quinquelemental framework, He is with you, with your body, with your mind and with your spirit. After death, He will be with your mind, with your soul. When the body is lost, the body will become one with the earth but mind and spirit will remain. He will be with you. So He is the real friend, He is the real bandhu[[, and there cannot be any mundane friend, mundane bandhu. It is a false utterance to say that a mundane friend is the best friend. Nobody is your friend. Only Parama Puruśa is your friend, and nobody else is your friend.

The second word is suhrd. Suhrd means “with whom there is never any clash, clash of ideology”. You must see in your family there is psychological clash amongst brothers, sisters, husband and wife. So everywhere there is psychological clash.]] In that respect nobody is your friend or comrade. So many fissiparous tendencies exist in the realm of intellectuality. [[So]] can there be asuhrd [[in this world]]? No. But your ideas are always respected by or approved by Parama Puruśa. Because they are approved by Parama Puruśa, you get the scope to express your views. So He is the only suhrd. No one else in this world is your suhrd.

The fourth one is sakhá. (About the third one I will speak later.) [[The root meaning is]] “one entity in two different structures”. That is, structures vary but the entitative flow does not vary. With your friends or relatives or even amongst family members there is no such love [[– that the physical bodies,]] the physical structures, vary, but the inner self does not vary. It is not the case with anybody in this world. But it is the case with Parama Puruśa because He is within. So there are differences in entitative structure, but there is no difference in ectoplasmic structure. So Parama Puruśa is the only sakhá. Nobody else can be your sakhá.

The third one is mitram. Mitram means “colleague”. Two physicians are mitram. Two thieves, two pleaders are also mitram; that is, they have a similar duty and profession. When the duty is similar, the term “colleague” is used – the Sankrit term of which is mitram. [[You may have mitram in this world but they are colleagues and nothing else. You have seen that mitram may or may not be friends.]] Two physicians of a small village are not friends – they are at best colleagues because there is competition between them. Parama Puruśa alone is your real friend. It is your duty to strengthen the hand of your real friend, that is, of Parama Puruśa. How can you do it? Just be a moralist – move along the path of spirituality and help His ectoplasmic structure with that of yours. Be a machine in the hands of Parama Puruśa and help Him in creating a more beautiful world and a [[more]] beautiful human society.